Dilemma on tx or not....

Love you, sis. Tough one, right? Best advice, be clear and honest about your concerns when you talk to her. Say the things you said here to her. Tell her you think she may be looking for a magic bullet. Request of her to create an aftercare plan and tell her you will not be comfortable sitting with her until there is one. Send her links to informative sites, this one is great, Lee Alberts is cool for psych explanations. Send her places that talk about how HARD it can be, and how it doesn't always work if you are not willing to make tremendous alterations in just about every area. Of course, my opinion is strictly that, my opinion. Checking out for awhile, catch me in emails, and as EVER, THANK YOU for being you and for all the help this last year. Big love to you, sis. Tia

I second everything Tia said, and want to add: Patience has really been paying off for me lately when it comes to making tough decisions.. In the past I've always felt a sense of urgency to hurry and decide things and move on to a course of action. But lately what I've been doing is just waiting.. If the right answer isn't clearly visible to me, I just wait, and don't decide yet. Eventually one of two things happens. Either the right answer will make itself known at the right time, or the decision will end up being made for me. Of course there are certainly situations where this theory wouldn't apply, but for the most part I've been having great, great success like this. When I don't know what to do, I just wait, and eventually I figure out the right choice.

Hi Sis, I know how you feel but it is so hard to tell who will make it and who will not.  If the person does not get it the first few times I would say wait and try again.  If she really wants to quit and you give her enough Ibo it can work.  I would say at least give her the chance.  I would also say mention to her that she must quit the bad stuff drugs, cigs, alcohol, people, places, behavior, etc.  cinderpath

Much love and gratitude for the teachings of "Patience" from these people' It is down to the neophyte if they seek success in "Abstinence'' no the provider or Iboga' When in doubt' leave it out and make the neophyte work for their clean time and also pay for their own treatment' If they no work it themselves' they shall just chuck it away' Also sounds as if mother requires of treatment' whilst the daughter is working for the monies for her own treatment' I would tell her to "Work for her own treatment" Intent is everything; and it looks to be this one is attempting to get others to "Work it" for her' N' as we all know' If Iboga has no intent to work with' then Iboga shall just chuck "Random" at them' and most proberly shall no delete of "Base" because the neophyte has no intent to work their own treatment' In order for any of this to scratch the surface' this lady must work on her own "Base" with guidance' but she must work at finding her own negative base patterns' because' otherwise' it be a waste of time and effort and medicine on everyones part' I would tell her "NO" and then find out of how good she is at "Screaming" then once she is "Headless" and running upfront self truths with no disguise' then you shall see some of "Base" and know of what her true "Anchoring" is' Then' You shall get a better picture of if it is really worth the time and effort attempting to teach her something' If she has no intent of "Rooting her base" then Iboga has no thing to delete' The instant things get a little tough' first sign of pain' she shall "USE" As this would seem to be her intent' Blessings and Light' Nobu +

Thanks everyone..... I like the part of not making the decission.  Have always been one that needed to know what My plan was...  I could vary to get there but needed to have a plan.  This is my life not others. Be honest....  I think this girl wants to not be tied to a pill..  Her MD recently got busted and the covering md was not comfortable with writing her monthly scripts and let it be know he is aware of this quacks business.  This scared her.  My heart goes out to her.. I see me 30 yrs ago.  I thought with my looks/smile I had the world by the tail... so does she. She has not contacted me since I went sailing with her hubby.... I think she now knows the gig is up.  Her husband and I really didnt discuss her... no need.  I read her too well.  He did talk about his concerns of the Mom upstairs with all the dope, the sister who is growing into addiction in front of his eyes.  ALl this the girl and I already discussed. I do not think she is ready nor really wanting to change life.  When I went for my tx.. I was so ready and willing.. it did take another failure to show me where I was not willing.  Now things are unfolding for me.  I have been honest with her on my thoughts but not strong..she feels "different then most addicts, better then, smarter then"  as I did, took another 35 yrs to see there was no difference; I will not contact her but wait for her to contact me... then have lunch and just put it out there.  The mom has many health problems with liver failure, cancer and in process of her end life.  I will continure to pray over this and just let it fall as it will for now.